Pustolovina: adventure in Serbian

Wednesday, October 11, 2006

with a whimper

My little two-month old relationship (which I didn’t write about here because the fellow in question and my extended family read this blog) is over. It would have been convenient and considerate had D bothered to tell me such things, but I have been able to deduce my own conclusions from a week of no responses to my attempts to contact him. Either he’s dead (in which case the relationship is over) or he doesn’t want me in his life anymore. Or maybe the theory a friend and I dreamed up about temporarily paralysis of the fingers and voicebox caused by an unfortunate run-in with a poisonous frog is true.

Maybe it’s overwork and being busy with the other things going on in my life, but I’m finding it hard to work up much anger or sadness about it. (I spent about a half hour listening to angry girl music a few nights back). Mostly, I’m just annoyed with the way he handled it.

The symmetry of it is kind of perversely satisfying, though. A relationship that began ridiculously and immaturely, making out in a park at the end of our first meetup, ends ridiculously immaturely.

[insert cliché of the “there’s more fish in the sea” or “you have to kiss a lot of frogs…” variety here.]

8 Comments:

  • At 8:21 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Rachel,

    For all you know, he's "happily in love with you" and doesn't have a clue.
    My husband forgot my birthday and was sincerely "surprised" by my (angry)reaction. There's like a genetic "defect" in a male brain regarding such matters.
    Also, you're better off not falling in love right now, since you'll be leaving soon. Think of your "emotional health." Another thing is, if the guy in question is a "Belgrade guy," they often like to play games and pretend to be "cool" -- sort of like New Yorkers, -- in that case, just forget the whole thing.

    Milica :)

     
  • At 10:58 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    love is the air everywhere i look around..lala and dont know without you baby..dont know..uhu! if he is a belgrade guy (which rachel dont want to say), then he ll call soon..trust me..they are like kids, they pretend but do care a lot actually. if he doesnt call, then thats weird for BG guys..really weird..maybe he is californian, bc they like to do that..not us.

     
  • At 1:08 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    if he´s serbian then d. most probably stands for "dragan" or the "dearest", which is quite an automatism if the first born child is male.

    in that case i can recomend "ceca" and her song "dragane moj".

    XAXAXAXAXAXAXAXXA

    hey, there are a lot of reasons for that kind of stopping.

    he´s married or promised (most probably)

    it started to get serious but he sees no future (cause there is no future) and a waste of time in this relationship(after all, your just a foreigner that will leave the country real soon)

    he´s got private trouble and needs (or he thinks so) to solve them alone

    he´s just another PLAYA and you helped him survive some boring times.

    who knows - who cares??? have some good times of the rest of your stay!

    or waste some good times to find out what´s really going on, maybe he´s the one who´s worth it!

    greetings

     
  • At 3:20 PM, Blogger rachel said…

    just to put the speculation to rest, he is a local fellow...

     
  • At 5:06 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Sorry that it didn't work out. As someone who's been on both sides of the immaturity divide, I think that your side is obviously much more lamentable.
    And on an unrelated note: I really enjoy milica's running commentary. Perhaps she should write a blog! :)

     
  • At 9:39 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    'a local fellow'??? weird..you know, he saw he can get away with a foreigner and now he pretends to be something he cannot with a BG girl..be hard with him and he ll know where his place is in this city..right now that is in a dog house!

     
  • At 2:05 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    Dear Richard,

    I've registered a blog, but I never seem to have enought time to set it up properly. And by the way, who would be interested in a blog by a Serb-American woman living in London? More rain and tea, anyone?
    I do, however enjoy reading anything from Belgrade, although I've been very disappointed lately.
    There's too much "gray eminence" involved, and I'd like tok now who the spin doctors are.
    I suspect "the women in black," but there might be other "sources" as well.

    Rachel, it's apparent that because I raised some points you felt uncomfortable about, you've put me in your little "black book," but that's OK. Communicating only with the poeple we always agree with would make the world a rather boring place.


    Milica

     
  • At 11:06 AM, Blogger rachel said…

    Milica-

    I do enjoy your comments - I just generally don't respond to ones that I already agree with. (Saying 'you're right' to commenters on my own blog seems self-congratulatory.)

    I'm glad that you take the trouble to comment, regardless of your level of agreement with what I have posted.

     

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